Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Things That Can Wait

My sister texts me this morning to tell me to go to the gym.  I tell her I have too much to do. Later, I call and she doesn't say, "Hello."  Instead, she says, "I hope you're calling me from the treadmill."

My sister knows me.  She knows that going to the gym makes me able to manage all the other stress in my life.  For days, things have felt unmanageable for our family.  My husband commented this morning that he's had a revelation about what causes things to feel so out of control for him.

"It's my desk," he says.  "I can't handle the clutter.  When my desk is clean, I can manage." 

I understand this.  I can't go to bed with dishes in the sink.  If I wake up to a messy kitchen, everything feels like a disaster.  Doing the nightly dishes puts everything else in order.  And going to the gym keeps my mood in check.

"It's your way to breathe," my sister says.  She explains that for her friend, keeping an organized freezer helps her breathe. Other folks need to make their beds or keep the interior of their cars clean.  I suppose it's different for everyone

Those minutes I spend on the things I need to do to breathe buy me entire days of order and elevated mood.  Maybe it's dishes and exercise.  Maybe it's an organized freezer and a clean desk.   No matter what it is, I let other things wait so I can do the thing that helps me breathe.

5 comments:

David Rupert said...

I am learning that I have to have some order, just to live with myself. I try every day just to organize one thing.

Eyvonne said...

It's difficult for me to find the discipline to do this. I don't need a spotless house, but when it crosses an invisible line, I can't handle it anymore.

Sometimes its hard to recognize what the problem is, but then when I get things back in order, the world seems suddenly better.

It is amazing what discovering this truth about yourself will do to improve your mood.

EverySixMinutes said...

So true! Like what Eyvonne said, it is so important to discover and understand what I call "trigger points" in one's life. Like you, my day is so much more productive if I go to the gym.

repsych said...

Very interesting idea. I was wondering why I always have to keep my desk spotless while the rest of the house is a mess and I can't care less. Clear desk is my point to breath, concentrate and be productive.

auntie said...

I'm with you on the clean kitchen thing. I have a very small kitchen with limited counter space so if I let things go even one day, it's a complete disaster! But if I do the dishes, sort through the mail, or take care of whatever else is cluttering things up, the next morning just seems so much brighter!